When I was in seventh grade, our church youth group leader led a three week series on sex and love which concluded with him passing out “pledges” for us to sign promising to wait until we were married to have sex. They ran out before I got one so I never actually signed it.
To my young mind, “wait until you’re married to a woman” seemed like simple, easy guidance. (I didn’t, at the time, realize just how unrealistic it is: 90% of Americans have sex before marriage—even when looking at older generations or evangelical Christians.)
When I began to realize that I was attracted to guys, I had to figure out what to do with that. What is the faithful expression of these feelings and desires? Where could they lead? What is forbidden?
Source: – Queer Theology